Pandemic blues have hit me hard. It’s tough being alone, and sometimes you really need a single person in your life. There are lots of jokes about how there will be a lot of divorces after this pandemic is over. I don’t know if that is as true as it seems. Life can be hard and cruel when you have no one.
So at the moment, I have space for a best friend. I need someone life in person, whom I can look in face, whom I can spend quality time with. So I’ve got some rules about this BFF in the future based on what I know I need.
- Be ok with making plans. Friends should see each other with the future in mind, and not just a distraction.
- Call me up for fun times. Not just when they need something.
- Communicate clearly. This is hard because we don’t like to hurt each other’s feelings, but it’s something that we need to do, and sometimes it may mean telling it like it is.
- Talk about, Philia: Affectionate love, because the longer we are friends, the closer a bond will form between us. Love is an important glue for deep friendships. But with love comes the potential for a broken friendship and a broken heart.
I don’t know if it is that difficult to find someone who will see things the same way I do, but I know I need to ensure that I’m making sure that these are on the radar, because if I don’t, then I will fall into the same situation again and again.