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Category: Relationships

  • New Rules

    Pandemic blues have hit me hard. It’s tough being alone, and sometimes you really need a single person in your life. There are lots of jokes about how there will be a lot of divorces after this pandemic is over. I don’t know if that is as true as it seems. Life can be hard and cruel when you have no one.

    So at the moment, I have space for a best friend. I need someone life in person, whom I can look in face, whom I can spend quality time with. So I’ve got some rules about this BFF in the future based on what I know I need.

    • Be ok with making plans. Friends should see each other with the future in mind, and not just a distraction.
    • Call me up for fun times. Not just when they need something.
    • Communicate clearly. This is hard because we don’t like to hurt each other’s feelings, but it’s something that we need to do, and sometimes it may mean telling it like it is.
    • Talk about, Philia: Affectionate love, because the longer we are friends, the closer a bond will form between us. Love is an important glue for deep friendships. But with love comes the potential for a broken friendship and a broken heart.

    I don’t know if it is that difficult to find someone who will see things the same way I do, but I know I need to ensure that I’m making sure that these are on the radar, because if I don’t, then I will fall into the same situation again and again.

  • SailorJX – What plan will you take?

    Have you ever realized that we are made up of plans?  I am no different.  So I thought I would tell you about the plans that I offer, and see which plan you may like to have.

    Basic SailorJX

    • Friended or followed on one or more of a number of social networks.
    • Your posts liked/loved on occasion.
    • Some light conversation.

    Basic Plus SailorJX

    You get all of the Basic package plus

    • Standardized birthday greetings if you list your birthday.
    • Interaction on your posts, about once every two weeks.

    Premium SailorJX

    In order to qualify for Premium SailorJX access, you must have met me in real life (IRL), or we have a long standing Basic Plus account.

    • Messaging on multiple platforms.
    • Promotion of your social media posts.
    • Some fun flirting.

    Premium Xtra SailorJX

    All the premium features and:

    • Private Snapchats customized just for you.
    • Invites to coffee or a drink (My Treat) and not just on your birthday.
    • Texting.

    Platinum

    This is where the world changes.

    • Invites to exercise events, such as running races.
    • Invites to theme parks.
    • Invites to movies.
    • Invites to dinner.
    • Best conversations.
    • And more…
    • You are considered a real friend.

    Platinum After Dark (Also known as the Trust Package)

    At this point you have most everything, except I expose you to my more secretive side.  You get to find out all the juicy things and I freely share everything about myself with you.  Yes, we are all freaks, but you get to discover even more about the craziness and fun that happens after dark.

    Uranium level

    If you are at uranium level you are in the smallest subset of people on the planet.  Here is what you have access to:

    • My undying love.
    • Promise to be there when you need me.
    • Someone who thinks about you often.
    • A desire to spend my free time with you.
    • A readiness to give you feedback and say the hard things and be accepting of you giving me that same bitting feedback because it will only make us better.
    • The No Judgement Zone!

    This uranium level is available to a limited number of people. Many family members are at this level, but sadly not all family is entitled to Uranium level.   It is not gender specific, but may or may not include the Platinum After dark package.

    Uranium is named after the precious metal that powers submarines, and it lasts a lifetime.

    Plutonium level

    This level includes everything and a desire to build a life with you.

    Plutonium is super explosive stuff when properly used.  Just like the how you feel when you are around that special someone.