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  • 30 Day Song Challenge

    So there was a photo posted in my twitter stream and I thought it was a great challenge. I like the post a day challenges, because they are engaging and fun.

    Here is the text of it, but I’ll also post the image file that I saw so you can repost either if you like or even this post. I would recommend letting people know to hashtag it with #30SongsD1 or whatever, then we can find songs that are being posted for whatever day you are doing. You can start the challenge anytime, you don’t have to wait for the 1st day of a month. Have fun.

    Day 1: A song you like with a color in the title.

    Day 2: A song you like with a number isn’t he title.

    Day 3. A song that reminds you of summertime.

    Day 4: A song that reminds you of someone you would rather forget about.

    Day 5: A song that needs to be played LOUD.

    Day 6: A song that makes you want to dance.

    Day 7: A song to drive to.

    Day 8: A song about drugs or alcohol.

    Day 9: A song that makes you happy.

    Day 10: A song that makes you sad.

    Day 11: A song that you never get tired of.

    Day 12: A song from your preteen years.

    Day 13: One of your favorite 70’s Songs.

    Day 14: A song that you loved played at your wedding.

    Day 15: A song that is covered by another artist.

    Day 16: One of your favorite classical songs.

    Day 17: A song that would sing a duet with on karaoke.

    Day 18: A song from the year that you were born.

    Day 19: A song that makes you think about life.

    Day 20: A song that has many meanings to you.

    Day 21: A favorite song with a person’s name in the title.

    Day 22: A song that moves you forward.

    Day 23: A song that you think everybody should listen to.

    Day 24: A song by a band you wish were still together.

    Day 25: A song by an artist no longer living.

    Day 26: A song that makes you want to fall in love.

    Day 27: A song that breaks your heart.

    Day 28: A song by an artist with a voice that you love.

    Day 29: A song that you remember from your childhood.

    Day 30: A song that reminds you of yourself.

  • Nike, the NFL and defending your right…

    Many people learned over the weekend that Colin Kaepernick would be the face of a Nike campaign. Much to the outrage of the far right conservatives who believe that the flag is being disrespected, Nike took a stand to not be on the sidelines.

    We used to have a saying here in America:

    I may not agree with what you say, but I will defend your right to say it.

    The discourse on speech that people don’t agree with has become more than toxic. Even my fellow veterans, many are blinded by their reverence to the flag that stops them from seeing the real problems in the world.

    They and many others seethe with anger when others do not conform to the way that they pay tribute to the flag. They forget that the flag represents all Americans regardless of their reverence to the sacred cloth of red white and blue.

    They forget that they pledge allegiance not only to the flag, but to the Republic… with liberty and justice for all.

    And so Kaepernick kneels, as he would at a grave to honor a fallen soldier. He doesn’t burn it, wipe his ass with it, drag it on the ground, but rather mourns for her, and looks at the angry people around who’s pledge are just empty words and false promises.

    He tries to remind people that there are many in the US that do not get justice, and are in fact denied it regularly. That is what this is all about. Maybe we need a moment of silence to remember those who have fallen because their were denied justice.

    Without ranting about flags and meanings, let’s just get back to agreeing to allow people the honor of speaking, and supporting their right to speak without having to agree with it.

    The angry people who will burn their Nike shoes are on the wrong side of history. I don’t have an answer when things will change, but they can’t while Americans are in denial and are too concerned with whether you stand or kneel than if children are dying in the streets.

  • How to fix @MoviePass

    If you are a movie person, maybe you finally broke down and said, I’ll try out this Movie Pass thing. I was skeptical at first, but I bought in and registered, and they certainly began delivering what they promised. I got to watch lots of great movies for $9.99 a month, unlimited. Then all of a sudden, it was as if the system moved upside-down and we began to see a sea of changes and even cases of not being able to see a movie using the pass.

    As a consumer, I want to consume this product, but we are all sitting here wondering, why were they able to do this? What was this business model? I still have yet to figure out how they are trying to make this work and what they are doing behind the scenes. But because I personally would like to see them succeed, I have some ideas that may make the difference that can return the service to solvency.

    • Collect non-private data from us. Your user base can help you develop a lot of information that is sellable that we will voluntarily provide. Imagine getting public opinion data that would be separated from being personally identifiable?
    • Market to us! Why aren’t you trying to get us to watch a particular movie each week. Imagine getting movie studios helping you to promote their movies?
    • What about coupons to get us to buy things to help promote a product through the app?
    • How about working through theater chains to enhance their loyalty programs? Do you have data on how many people buy concessions that use the movie pass? This would be helpful for marketing purposes. If people provide the data, maybe you could get theaters to help give you a discount on the cost of a Moviepass ticket.
  • These are just a few ideas. So please fix the service so we can enjoy it for years to come.

  • The blog… the long form tweet…

    Maybe part of society’s problem is that we suffer from TL;dr. Otherwise known as too long, didn’t read. Twitter has gone from microblogging, so now having double the characters available.

    Blogs, real blogs like this one are so important, but how do we bring them back from the edge of obscurity? How do we get people to read? How do we get blogging to be relevant once again?

    Something to ponder.

  • Apple destroys the Social Web for the good of us all.

    By SailorJ

    If you haven’t noticed, Apple released information about their new operating systems, iOS, MacOS, TVOS, and Apple WatchOS. One of the features that seems to be telling, is how they are going to increase your privacy and help you ween yourself away from spending too much time on your device. Some people think this is just a gimmicky thing, but in fact it is not gimmicky at all. If I was Facebook or Twitter, I would be carefully watching my stock price, as Apple users begin to limit their time using these services, and for great reasons, to re-engage with life. What is Apple’s end game anyways, since the addictive nature of the device is what helps to sell it to the masses? Why lead the next change in culture? There is a lot to be said for people to use their device as a tool for good, and Apple may think that people can discover more exciting things to do than Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Apple is right, as people do have a lot more apps and things that can be done on their Apple iDevices. Maybe you write that novel, edit that video, take amazing photos and edit them, there certainly are a lot of things that you can do. I’m just scratching the surface. Yes it is an amazing productivity tool, but it’s a time waster as well. That’s great when wasting time is what you want or need to do, but even more is our Pavlovian response to everything, every notification, and how quickly we feel we have to respond. We will learn to breathe again and reduce our stress in the long run. We won’t worry about what people are posting or saying or doing, because we will be living in the moments of our lives, instead of just watching the moments of others, like some reality TV show.

    There is nothing wrong with posting to Social Media and doing everything that we do now, as long as we find a level of moderation and do live in the world of Fear of Missing Out.

    I’ll admit it, i’m an addict to my iDevices, and I’m looking forward to weening myself away from the time killing and refocus on the things that will make me re-engaged back into the best of life.

  • Who lives with a broken heart?

    There is love and there is unrequited love and there is Romeo and Juliet type love. I wouldn’t call it forbidden, just bad timing.

    The hardest thing about love isn’t finding the right person, it’s finding the right person at the right time.

    We all grow and change and

  • What is Sexy?

    OK Boys and Girls, let’s talk about something near and dear to everyone that we rarely have a conversation about, and that is what constitutes sexy.

    I say this because in 2018 if you are a guy and you are sending out Dick Picts to the ladies, you are doing life wrong, because as they say, no one wants to see that.

    And this is sort of the question right? What the fuck do men know? They know what sexy is about a woman. After all, men are visual creatures. They love curves, they love actually anything that reveals the female body.

    One can follow a myriad of twitter accounts by women, and they post lots of “sexy” posts of other women and their romantic or sexual desires, hoping men will get a hint I suppose.

    Let me give you a few examples of what I mean.

    https://twitter.com/playfulsensual/status/956009537638666240

    https://twitter.com/playfulsensual/status/955800420785512449

    That is just a few posts of what I mean. Do women find these posts “sexy” or identify with them? Are they attracted to what they see? My guess is yes. Where as men to post photos of this nature with men as the subject would be offensive.

    Double standard? Or is it that men don’t know what women find sexy?

    I believe that men are generally repressed when it comes to their bodies. They make an effort to show it off, but only the hardest 6 pack abs are ever lauded as sexy and no one wants to see men naked in any other format. (I could be wrong)

    But isn’t the irony the fact that people don’t want to be perceived by their bodies. We want to be perceived and sexualized by our brains, and attitudes, wit, and resourcefulness, and moral strength… I could go on.

    But turgid penises seem to be something that many men believe women want to see. And maybe in a heterosexual normative way, it’s ok in the bedroom in real life, when it’s consensual and you’ve already created the elements of desire, but not until then. Boys, keep it in your pants.

    But ladies, you have a responsibility as well, reaffirm and let men know what is sexy. If they know, they will work hard at responding.

  • Getting a taste of my own medicine

    So file this one out of no fucking way.

    I was on a date the other day with a fine young woman. And the one thing I noticed about her, at least at first was she was shorter than me. Well dear reader, you may think this is nonsensical, but I stand a mighty 5’2″ on a good day, and this person was 4’10”. And this had my wheels turning in my head about height in a way I would have never imagined.

    Generally speaking, I have no problem dating or being with women taller than myself. I actually never give it much thought at all. In fact, there are lots of women in the 5′ to 5′-4″ range that I feel pretty much like I can go toe to toe without it seemingly strange to the onlookers, as if they matter.

    I am a fan of the Popeye and Olive Oyl who is the epitome of short sailor with tall woman. I could go on for ever about that I suppose, and the fact that Betty Boop probably was Popeye’s first love interest. But I digress.

    I suppose I really find it a bit awkward being taller than a woman. At least that’s my first impression. Mind you we are only talking 3 or 4″, but still. But what has me as at a quandary is the men that are 6’+ That go with 5′ tall women. And the women that love it. I feel it’s almost a fetish, because there is something nice to be able to kiss your partner without having to have a ladder.

    Now I’m not saying it can’t work or it isn’t cool, or whatever for people of disparate heights to be together. Believe me, I’d be the first to be busted there. But I sometimes think now that the shoe is on the other foot how it can change my perspective.

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  • Thanksgiving 2017

    Did you survive? You know what I mean, family, cooking, a day off of work for most, and shopping for those of you brave or crazy enough.

    I had a nice thanksgiving, started with running a 5K. We worried that it was going to rain but weather held out and it was a wonderful run with just a light sprinkle in the middle of the run. I don’t know that I think that running before Thanksgiving makes me feel like I can totally indulge but it certainly makes me feel better at the end of the day regardless of how much I eat.

    Thankful for Moms

    I think that a lot of people will set around the table and talk about all the things that they are thankful for but one thing that seems to be a little bit remiss in my mind is thinking all the moms out there and grandmothers as well. These are the unsung heroes of Thanksgiving. Without moms and grandmothers who is cooking all of these savory dishes that remind you of home.

    I was not home this year for Thanksgiving. But my mom particularly puts out a wonderful array of dishes that everyone knows is her signature of the holiday. So for me not being home I totally missed out on some of the best eats that I know of.

    However I did get to go to a family’s home that I was invited to, and I really was treated to some great food and got to watch another family and see their traditions during this holiday.

    for the most part Thanksgiving is a great nondenominational holiday that everybody here in America can celebrate regardless of your background and just consider the idea of being thankful for one day for something and for that I think it is a really great American holiday.

    Certainly people can make things religious or political but at the end of the day we are very lucky if we have a roof over our head and warm food in our stomach and people that we can call family. Not everybody is so lucky not even here in this country as much as we would like to believe. I think that’s the reason why we still want to bring people up help people out and always strive to do the right thing to help everybody.

    I know that not every day will be a day of Thanksgiving and it is too bad that we have to go another 365 days until people come together in the same way again. There are plenty of other holidays both religious and secular but none quite as inclusive has Thanksgiving. Hopefully this is the kind spirit that we can push forward throughout the year, and work together for positive change in this world.

    But mostly we should be thankful for our family and our moms and our grandmothers who help us to remember why all of this is so important.